MLC spouse projecting their negativity onto the BS

[Amy40]

Someone can correct me if I'm wrong, but after Amy's awakening she tried to R her M.

Her H DB'd during Amy's MLC, but by the time Amy emerged her H was done and had moved on.

Well now. That sure is the short version .

While my husband certainly tried to save our marriage, what he did couldn't have been further from "DBing". And then when I finally got myself together, he was pretty much right back where he'd been all along; Drinking on the back porch. He really never has moved on - never once even dated. Today, we co-parent and we are friends to a degree. He is the picture of unwillingness to look inward and grow. My advice to the spouse of any real MLCer remains the same as it always was; stop thinking so much about what they are doing or thinking or experiencing and instead, turn the mirror around and focus on yourself. Otherwise if they ever do emerge, they might just be the only one who has grown up.

Good luck.

Peace,
AmyC