Sorry to hear about the fiasco...it's so funny you decided to wait in the car- classic! :
This was an issue between D and mother, my presence was not required and, in fact, I've learned can often be a bad thing. I'm not there to act as referee between her and her kids, I did that for a long time when we were together. Always trying to be the peacemaker. Now, she deals with the holes she digs by herself. If the kids need an ear or advice afterwards, I'm available and they usually discuss their issues about Mom with me. If I feel it would be helpful, I advice them to talk to their mother and we can talk about what to say. If wife wants an ear or my input, I'll give that too but she doesn't ask and I don't offer. At times I used to phone her up and say my piece about her behaviour but then she'd slam the phone down in my ear. I don't bother anymore. The funniest one was when she was mad at D16 for hanging up on her. I phoned wife back to discuss the situation and she hung up on me! So I phoned her back again and told her I don't appreciate being hung up on either and, guess what, she hung up on me.
