It is very difficult to go dark, especially if you think there is OM. But do you communicate at all b/c of the kids? If so, stick just to the issue she wants to communicate about. And keep it short.
I know it is an uphill battle when others, (family members, counselors, attorneys, etc.) are the only ones advising W and no one is encouraging her to work things out. But now is the time to be strong and confident in yourself - I know easier said than done. But she won't be attracted to you if you're not.
Her communication is by text alone, and only about drop and pick up. Nothing else at all to it. She is making herself as distant as possible. Again when I see her to pick up/drop off, she has a cocky smile and attitude, like she could care or less.
She has totally changed our marriage to suit her, venom that came out of her mouth never happened.
Funny part, in all the divorces, etc in her family, they always get rid of decent people, then they hook up with idiots in trouble with the law, mental cases, drug addicts, no jobs, and all say they are the happiest they have ever been.
She claims she is much happier, I respect that, don't like it, but still respect it. The fact that she wiped out everything about our marriage, and replaced it with garbage gets to me.
As long as she is darker than me, and won't even talk about the kids to me, shows me what sort of respect she actually has for me.
Sometimes I want to give up, then I think about my kids, my vows and I just can't yet...weird I know.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
