I found that even when my H and I started becoming more intimate (emotionally and physically) I started throwing up walls. And I was the one asking for more intimacy!
Hey, what do you think of that...? Now that she's coming around, you're wanting to run...do you think that might be just your reaction to the changes? When you've had an emotionally distant marriage, becoming more intimate can be really stressful you know. That emotional distance in some ways keeps BOTH parties safe. We didn't have to deal with conflict. We could just withdraw. And now that we're having to deal with stuff... well, it's stressful. It can make us want to run. IDK. Just one of my 'theories'.. feel free to take it or leave it!
This is an excellent point from a woman's perspective. I am exactly at that point myself.
W and I are getting along great, but the intimacy has not gotten further from little massages on the couch.
I wonder exactly that - is ML the final acceptance for her that there is going to be a next chapter in our R and the fear of opening that door is holding her back?
Quite plausable.
I have to figure out how to sneak through the cracked opening (no pun intended)
