I agree. I am absolutely a different person since all of this started. H doesn't even know me any more (though I don't think he knows that). It's as if I've taken this "opportunity" and run in a positive direction with it. He's done...nothing? Gotten more depressed, withdrawn and who all knows what with the steroids.
It has crossed my mind that the best thing I could do for him (yes HIM, since I do care about him) is D him. So that maybe he'll look at himself and get straight instead of going down the path he's going.
I know in the end each spouse has to make their choices for THEMSELVES. I have a feeling what that means for me but am taking NC time to think about that. I have been more clear, relaxed and happy since not dealing with his madness or "absurd comedy" as I call it.
Thank you again
M--14 years T--20 years, HS sweethearts dday #1--2002 EA dday #2--2005 bar sl*t dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years