Maybe now is a good time for me to ask: a lot of people here at standing for their M. Should someone in my sitch be standing?
Are you not going to stand because of what someone else did to you?
What H's choices are?
Have been?
What they will be?
None of which do you now or ever have controlled.
One of the most amazing things that we have an opportunity to discover in this tragedy is
WHO WE ARE.
Not as a spouse.
Not as a mother/father/son/daughter/friend
Not as what anyone perceives us to be or what we want to be perceived to be.
When YOU STAND in the face of adversity you find who you are because you do so at your own choosing.
Will you let H's choices choose who you are?
Will you let others perception of you cloud your own self perception?
You are done standing when YOU decide you are done.
If you think that is when enough time has passed for your
Originally Posted By: Amg
He's not an egotistical jerk. He is ABSOLUTELY not the guy you would think would do this stuff. He's sick. He needs help. He hates himself. But he can't/won't see any of that b/c he thinks I made him do this stuff somehow.
Confused, sick H to have the chance to figure HIS sh!t out on YOUR timeline.
Then that is your choice.
You find out a lot about yourself when you have to confront these choices Amg.
Me?
I know that if I decide to accept a relationship with my W again it will be because I decide to do so.
If I decide to leave it is because I have decided to move forward with my life.
No one is going to compromise my life. My choices.
Your answer lies within you.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
