Eric, thank you for writing but I think you take things too literally. JMO. I take as well as I give. It's a God given thing in the South. Self reliant? Had to be. Part of that is watching out for #1, even when you don't feel like #1.
I'm grieving our old life, but I'm making a new one for myself.
SO, the questions remains, just spell it out for this dumb old redneck gal from the mountains. WHAT QUESTION?
By the way, I take no offense at anything you say. I welcome your insights.
Onto better and brighter things today, my dears. Hauling off a box of clothes, etc I cleaned out of the closet to the local Salvation Army. Emptied out my change bottle for all the silver to turn into spending cash for this week's Arts & Crafts Festival. Study night( for my Optician's test) on Tuesday, Exercise class on Wednesday. Damon ( Vampire Diaries) on Thursday, and then I hope to join you all on FB. Better prepared and less overwhelmed.