Wow, thanks, I don't feel like I have options but I sure as hell hope you are right.
During my run this morning, this all came to me with great clarity. My husband idolizes his father. His father had an affair and his parents separated for 1 yr but remained in the same house because of money and kids. They sat the kids down... he must have been around 9 or so, and said they would be getting a divorce. To this day he says he believes his dad did not have an affair, just gave his secretary money. I don't believe my H that he truly believes that or that his dad is innocent but I never pushed the issue. When this first started, I said your parents separated for awhile and worked it out... he said no, this is different... Now I see that it is exactly the same. His dad got involved with someone who worked below him too. He has brought this up more than once in or time together. I realize now that it is something he never dealt with. I am sure he thinks he is much better because he said he wanted a divorce first. So......clarity is one thing, now what the hell do I do with it?
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
