GAG and Beatrice thanks so much for your words of wisdom. I love hearing the perspective of others. I am incredibly tired tonight...feel like I've been through the wringer but just wanted to say thanks and let you know where things are at. I will be back tomorrow to respond more fully to your thoughts.
So this morning I had an issue with downloading a program. I sent H a text and he rang me back and talked me through it. He made mention of the settlement and once again I repeated the well worn mantra. He said, "I don't even know what the document is that you're referring to" I wanted to say that's because you haven't bothered to ask to see it! Still, he made no mention of a time or date to see it.
Anyway he sent me a message later to say he made some pasta sauce and did I want any. I called there on my way home from work (he lives nearby). The conversation went to the bonfire of yesterday and I reiterated that I just wanted to move forward and over the pain of the past. H agreed. He told me not to get too caught up on the divorce cos it's just a piece of paper. I tried to hear what he was saying without being too rigid in my thinking. Within all this he said he wanted to be friends and wanted to move forward and he thought by his actions he had shown that and that he had used actions instead of words. He said he had no direction in life at the moment and was doing the best he could(no permanent job). He also threw into the convo that he might move in with ow down the track. I tried to validate and affirm him as much as I could but as soon as there was mention of ow I was very clear that moving in with her would most definitely mean he would never see or hear from me again.
I told D about the possibility of him moving in with her 'down the track' to get her reaction. D laughed and said, "What's with that? He'll never do that cos then he'd never see any of us and anyway, he would have done it ages ago if he was going to." (Kids refuse to have anything to do with ow)
Anyway I think ow moving in is just a line that says I haven't made you any promises. I am leaving my options open. Interesting.
As I left we hugged and he kissed me on the cheek. He called out after me to drive safely (it's been raining).
After dinner I sent him a message "thanks for dinner. It was nice. Going to have an early night. bye" "He replied, "No worries. Good idea to get some decent sleep. Sweet dreams." Sweet dreams....hmmmm, never had that before.
As I typed this he sent another message to ask me for my opinion on a current job vacancy.
So this is MLC....picture it....... H has one foot in the door and the other just outside the door but in the running 'get away' position!
