Faith,
Yes, I am in a better place to work on the M. I have been working my butt off on myself. Intimacy was really lacking and he knows I am seeing a therapist specifically for this. What is the OW doing? Making him 'feel like a man', wanted, appreciated, worshipped... I didn't do those things so well. I used the excuse of my training program but really I wasn't taking care of my needs or his. Some was unavoidable, some wasn't. He feels inferior to me in our profession- that I can't change, it is his problem. Could I do a better job of it now? Yes. Would I have to be conscious of my actions everyday. Yes. Would it be a lot of work. Yes. I would be willing to give it a try but, he currently isn't. As long as she is in the picture, I know he won't change his mind.

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."