wow thanks Lotus. would say there is some residual anger but not much bc have decided to move on. the past is past. i am prepared to forgive and love and trust and committ. probably what u r sensing now is how her slight backsliding in the past few days is making me feel uneasy. that brings out the frustration in me. smile

most def we are dialoguing every day. but need to be good about the homework. thank u for ur words of wisdom and ur insights as well as prior experience. the one couple that really helped us during the w/e and the first session were not present for the 2nd session. the H had had an A, and my W has found him to be inspiring.