My husband is addicted to an emotional affair

[nicole8]

I've tried more and more to not answer or be responsive to my husbands text messages or phone calls. Well about two weeks ago he called and I just didn't answer. he persisted to call 35 times in a half hour. I didn't answer. It was 11:30 at night and I was trying to sleep. Next thing I know someone is banging on my bedroom window and shaking the gate that was locked. My dog was barking and I was FREAKED out... Well it was my h. I went to the gate and he was angry I wasn't answering his calls. I told him he needed to calm down and that I was sleeping. He came in the house and gave me a hug. I broke down and started to cry some mostly because my heart was racing from being freaked out. My h started to cry also and he said again that he doesn't know what he is doing. I asked him again what was wrong and he said he doesn't know. He stayed the night and said that I must hate him. I told him I didn't hate him.

Fast forward two days and he calls and is upset that I haven't returned his phone call from his lawyer. Apparently I am suppose to just drop everything for him and what he wants. I explained to him that I was at work and didn't have the time to do this yet. Again, I chose to not respond to his text messages and he was persistenly calling me on Monday morning and texting while I was at work. So he calls me at work (which he never does). He's upset because I'm not responding to him and thought I wanted to talk with him. He came over that night but was really distant and upset because someone stole his scuba gear (his fault by the way he left it in the back of his truck). After he left he sends me a text saying that I've never even asked him to come home or said that I want him back.

The roller coaster goes up and down over and over and I just want off and am not sure that will happen even if we are divorced.