Wow – now that’s positive. I have another more personal question for you but before I ask…
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I'm not willing to talk to him (in person) about D or ownership of items. We can D w/o seeing each other. I guess I'm not really willing to talk to him about anything unless/until he mans up and says SOMETHING, ANYTHING about D, M, A...anything. What drives me most crazy is when I texted him about house ownership he said wasn't going to D by text and that he knew he hadn't "stepped up" to talk. That was 2 weeks ago and he still hasn't stepped up to to talk.
Boy are you pissed off. Man, If I was him I may not want to speak to you either. I am not trying to make you feel bad AMG. I’m just saying that you seem to harbor a fair amount of anger and resentment towards him.
Have you forgiven him?
If so, are you sure about that?
If not, then IS YOUR FORGIVENESS contingent on him “owning up to” his issues?
Amg, forgiveness is really for YOU sweetie. It is a gift that YOU give. It is not contingent on something that someone else must do for you.
Let me ask you a question….
Have you ever asked someone to forgive you. Wait…wait…before you answer that…answer this…
Did you make any mistakes in YOUR M?
If you did, and ftr, let’s assume you did and it was something that really hurt him – not an A…just something that really hurt him. And it was hurt that you really…I mean really felt bad about. So in order for you to feel better you needed him to forgive you.
How would you feel IF your H gave you a list of things that he need from YOU in order to provide the FORGIVENESS that YOU needed?
How would you feel?
Okay…here is my chitty question…
You seem to not be sure that you even want to deal with your H right now. You say you do not want a D yet you feel so much at peace with out him.
My question….
Have you found a “friend”?
Actually don’t answer and IF I have offended you I am sorry.
IF you have then, I would advice that you first decide what you want to do with your M and do not use the person as an emergency exit. It would not be fair to them.
Finally, you can feel free to tell me to fu*k myself…I pretty thick skin and I can take it…maybe that is why I can still have a conversation with my W – even if she does not apologize for all of her actions. But hey that’s just me.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
