I forgot to mention that we've been intimate a couple of times in the last week. I don't honestly think it is anything physical but I can believe that it is something emotional.
uggg..... another noob on the site, same denial, same questions, same faith in their spouse that they could "never" do the certain things.
"I don't honestly think it is anything physical but I can believe that it is something emotional."
Famous last words.
You can believe what you want.
That's up to you.
You can believe in the toothfairy, santa claus, pot of gold at the end of the rainbow, fairy dusty, peter pan, etc.
You can believe in anything.
Doesn't mean what you believe in will come true.
Do you honestly believe she and the other man could hang around for "months" and nothing physical transpire between them except for a great friendship with lots of texting and puppy love type emotions.
Seriously?
You believe that?
Well time to take off those make believe, never never land sun glasses off and open your eyes to the real world.
The wife has told you she wants a divorce. She's not in love with you, doesn't want to be with you, etc.
And she's hanging out with another man constantly.
Even in never never land, 1 + 1 must equal 2
Your wife may be living in a fantasy world right now but you don't have to, the sooner you join us on planet Earth where sometimes bad things happen to good people, the sooner we can help you but I will refuse to give advice to someone who won't believe what's happening in front of his own eyes. That would be a waste of time and typing.
Your wife... is having an affair. Believe it.
There are things that you can do to turn this around, fairly quickly but only if you actually do them. If you start saying things like "I can't do that" and "I stand for my marriage and won't do that" and "I can't believe she would do that", well then that's when I will say "I can't help you", and "I can't give you any advice because you wouldn't listen anyways" and "I can't help someone who doesn't really want help when what they're looking for is another shoulder to cry on"
No offense, but there are lots of people on these forums that need help, I'd like some indication that you're willing to do what will work and what is counter-intuitive but will shift things around in your favor.
