Wife is cheating, am sad but confused?

[HopelessInLove]

SMM,

OM is about 20 years older and has 2 college age children. That is one hard kick in the cowboys to me. He was M about 10-15 years ago, W had A with OM and she left him. She left with a friend of mine's dad, and that R never worked out.

I have slightly exposed A. In its earlier stage when I suspected an EA, I told her that she needed to break it off and she gave me the whole line of sh!t, if I was having A I would have been more intelligent about it, he and I only talk about work, etc. I now know that all that happened was I pushed it deeper and probably to the point where it has become physical.

I want to see my L and get the details on my rights. I recently decided to close a business which I started over a year ago, something which I felt would help financially in the future and give us more opportunity to be a family and do more together. I now have a lot of debt from the business which she did not sign on for the loan with me. I will have some stability finiancially soon but I have nothing right now. If I go and expose she may go to a L and I could lose everthing- house, and primary custody of kids.

I may just decide to wait for a while, work more on myself and GAL. I was just rereading DR, putting pressure may just push my W away even more. Maybe?