"7 or 8 years ago I was a strong, fun guy. Lately I've just been drowning and I think that is why my M is ending."
So you imply here that your wife can "see" you drowning. 7 or 8 years is a long time to watch someone drowning.
Do you think she has thrown you a "life saver" while you were out there drowning?
At what point do you stop throwing people a rope?
"I want to be the fun guy my W fell in love with. To not worry about money and the future so much. I used to think that IF I had the big house, the good job and some savings THEN things would be OK. THEN I could work on my R. THEN I could give my W what she needed."
But.. is this not what life teaches us? This is what we are supposed to do. Big house.. Big Money.. Big Family.. it is what women want!
But.. when we look at you statement.. you start to understand.. something Big.. was missing.
What do you think it was?
"I don't want to do that anymore. She is too important. I am too important. Life is too short."
The funny thing is that you put thing in the right order. What do you know about your wife?
Explain her to me. You could make a list.. or just talk off the cuff. Imagine that I have no idea what a woman is.
Got it?
"I guess, I want to unwind all the crap in my life."
You can't back up. You can't undo it. With the words.. she has changed it. Now more than ever.. you need to hear what she is saying.
Why do you think she had an affair?
Why would it be difficult for her to walk away from "That guy"?
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
