Wow, thanks everyone for your overwhelming responses. I don't plan to expose the A tomorrow at least. That much I know. I need to think about it and my intentions. It is all so sad. The person I married is gone. He is about to destroy his reputation at work. He is her boss. He will lose the respect of the other people that work under/above him. I really have no doubt about that. They will treat him fine and all, but it will never be the same there for him... and word will travel to any other place he goes to, that is how small this profession is. I wish I didn't care about him but I do.
I am generally all about dignity, honor and strength. So, with everything I have worked on in myself in the last 9 weeks, let's hope I can keep going with that in this crisis.
I know work is going to be much harder for me. This sucks so bad as I need the ability to concentrate more now than ever. I am trying to finish my program and this is a crucial time. I am sometimes so angry at his selfishness in this time, I don't even know how to respond.
As far as exposing or not... does it change anyones opinion one way or another that it appears the full on A is just beginning. She appears to be doing most of the pursuing? Then again, he has asked for a divorce, does it really matter? Why the hell doesn't he just file and stop contacting me!!!
(Formerly blgp) Me-35 H-33 Married 4 yrs Together 9 yrs "Bomb" 8/1/10 Separated 8/6/10 D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11
"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."
