Just to be clear. Exposure to me means telling people outside of the two of you.

He is going to deny it. You have enough evidence to know it is at least a EA.

Otherwise the both of you are in denial.

I actually did expose it to a few people I thought were friends of the M. Nothing really happened.

That was my experience.

My point here is what are you trying to accomplish?

Embarras him?

Punish him?

IMO people rarely respond to reprimanding behavior. In fact they rebel against it.

Like I said everyone speaks to their own experience or philosophy on this.

Just giving mine.

Will it bust the A? Not likely IMO.

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am