hey lost, start by reading the posts of other people. it will help u to realize that u r not alone. i am like u, the LBS w/ the WAS who's had an A. for 2nd time no less!
when he said that he absolutely had no love for u anymore, i wondered if that was my W talking. truly. do not believe 100% of what they say. when u react to his A and his words by lashing out in anger, it makes it e-z for him. it allows him to take his guilt (and he most certainly has that: GUILT and lots of it) and convert it over into anger at u. it's your fault after all, isn't it? he's never loved u, u got married too young, blah, blah, blah. total BS. dont accept it for anything but that.
he is an addict. he has an addiction. this is a battle that u can choose to fight or not. it appears that u have already made ur choice. u want ur M. take a peek at hopelessinlove.
but first need to know more about u. ur sitch. background would be helpful. try putting together a signature. it will help a lot. the more information u provide the better.
________________________________________________________________ M: 42, W: 40 T: 18y, M: 15y S7 S9; D4 D13 D15 --------------------------------------------- Nov 2008 - Feb 2009 - EA/PA - OM1 Mar 2009 - Exposed - W didnt come clean 100%, admitted A, no details May 2009 - Nov 2009 - FT but no resolution Nov 2009 - DB'ing (not very well bc) Mar 2010 - ILYBNILWY - still ML regularly Mar 2010 - Wife shuts me out of FaceBook Mar 2010 - Sep 2010 - EA/PA - OM2 (lives in FL but working NY) 9/1/10 - OM2 moves back to FL, his M estranged in past, 4 children 8/31/10 - install keylogger (shouldve done it sooner, duh) 9/6/10 - Confront W/OM2/OMW2 9/7/10 - Exposure family/friends 9/7/10 - W says may file D, talk sep? 9/7/10 to present - OM2 discloses A in detail to OMW2, offers wife 100% transparency 9/14/10 - Communicated OM2/OMW2, end contact, sep no longer option Sept 2010 - W initially won't admit A until 9/16/10, wanting "closure", reluctantly agreed no contact Retrouvaille 9/24-9/26: great experience, W hopeful for 1st time, agrees FB/social networking is bad influence, texts/emails much less, mostly warm but some cold days, not physical yet but for occasional short kisses --------------------------------------------- Current - Contact with OM2 unknown, suspect done for now bc W acting strange, ?withdrawal Current - only small details of A revealed, but transparent Current - completed Retrouvaille, pretty good thus far, talking, sharing feelings, talks about future, wearing rings again (!!) after few weeks of not
