I made mistakes, no infidelity,no abuse, but mistakes, our stories are close, only real difference is she hasn't filed yet (not that I know of anyway).
I was very clingy when she 1st left, there is no doubt. I panicked losing my boys, I panicked losing my wife. I went with some LRT's also, and a few weeks later, she said she wanted to goto IC and work things out. I was in heaven, I got a chance to give the boys a bath, put them to bed (at her house she is renting), we even went out a few times a week as a family again.
Her 2nd IC is where it all went to he!!. She met me that night to pick up the boys and had her rings off. That's where she said she was done, it was better for the boys, she wanted to start over with someone else, etc.
At that point, I went dark, problem is, she went darker.
So I don't want to give up, but sometimes I feel I have no choice. She won't talk, and it certainly doesn't seem like she misses being a family.
The idea of another guy raising my kids rips me apart inside.
The idea she thinks they are better off rips me apart also, my kids are my life.
I believe any problem could be worked out, I still do. I hope someday she does also.
Keep posting, I can use the support, thank you.
Last edited by Lostinlife; 10/11/1001:42 AM.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
