Can you post over in the infidelity forum? There are folks there who--if you provide details of your situation--will advise you about gathering information, possible affair exposure, and so on.
This is serious stuff, guy. You need to step up for your kids and yourself.
M-47,W-40,No kids D-filed 5/27/2010 Piecing - 10/21/2010 -=Soon to be banned=-
also, it took me some time to get the guts to post this story on a messageboard. I am using it as therapy for myself as opposed to going crazy all day at work.
It's been 3 months, I feel like they left this morning.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
Here is my update, any advice from this point on is appreciated.
As of right now, my wife hasn't said a word to me in 4 weeks. She won't discuss anything about the kids, nothing, all by text. I have to get updates about the boys school from him.
I can't find another story where someone has dealt with this.
I am not 100% sure of OM, I am 99.9% sure, just by the clues.
She is cocky, arrogant, and not talking is a blessing in a way, she always made a point of saying it is over and this is best for the boys.
I would like to think there is hope down the line, I just can't see it. I love my wife, kids, family..
Advice?
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
Lost. It's never too late to have hope/faith. You're the one in control of your life, what you do, where you want to go. Just be warned, it's really easy to talk yourself into giving up when your perspective gets depressing.
Lost. It's never too late to have hope/faith. You're the one in control of your life, what you do, where you want to go. Just be warned, it's really easy to talk yourself into giving up when your perspective gets depressing.
Thanks, I still want to have faith, and I still have hope(I am the only one right now) I honestly do.I am not wired to be a part time Dad, I hate it.
I was OK with it (not speaking) for the first few weeks, it's how indifferent she is to me that is starting to get to me. She leads me to believe that it is just over.
She is the type of person that even if she changes her mind, she'll go down with the ship.
I see such a difference in my older boy, she didn't, said he is fine, and this is for the best.
Last edited by Lostinlife; 10/11/1012:47 AM.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
My best suggestion is to continue being cordial towards her. Hope she softens towards you soon, it's hard when they are acting so distant.
She completely forgot how much my boys and family mean to me.
Divorce is so common in her family, her Mom, stepdad, stepmom, Mom's sisters, now Mom's sisters kids were splitting up. When the going gets tough, they get indifferent.
M-38 W-37 T-16,M-11 (Oct 30,1999) S-5 S-2 Wife left 7/4/2010
"When life hands you a lemon, say, 'Oh yeah, I like lemons! What else ya got?" — Henry Rollins
