For the moment, whilst you compose yourself and decide what to do, I would try to take the high road and act professionally whilst treating your H as you would a pleasant acquaintance/ pet owner. I know this will be hard but you don't want to burn your bridges.

Also you could ring a DB C up and get some advice/ support?

Saffie
me 46
H 46
M in 1986
D20,D18,S16,D13
H's A 01/05 to 07/06
H recommitted to M 07/06
renewed vows 09/06
Going from strength to strength