Thanks everyone. I truly, truly appreciate you all.
She is not married, no boyfriend (expect apparently my H).

Yes, my H has been seeing my 180 and is still interested. Can't seem to help himself about asking how things are going etc.

He does not seem as depressed but I don't know. When I asked him how he was doing this week (after he asked me and I said Good!) he gave me a down cast look and a frown that he was 'OK'. Since he wanted to point out to me that he went to the gym and quit taking sleeping pills, these are signs he is coming out of his depression.

Today I have a very hard time answering how much I want to be married to my H. I can only think of his negative attributes right now and my level of respect for him has taken a major nose dive... as will that of our collegues once this all comes out...

(Formerly blgp)
Me-35
H-33
Married 4 yrs
Together 9 yrs
"Bomb" 8/1/10
Separated 8/6/10
D filed 10/21/10, on hold til 1/11

"If you want to hear God laugh, tell Him about your life plans."