Well, after several months of thinking there was positive progress, I woke up the last several nights frustrated. I kept asking myself why H still was not affectionate. About 3am this morning this little voice told me to go through his cellphone. I did. I discovered emails to and from another woman. They were not sexual in nature, but very much an emotional affair. I confronted him, of course. No where in the emails did it mention them having gotten physical, but that's a moot point at this juncture. H was supposed to have stopped all this outside stuff.
Naturally, H claims she has nothing to do with our issues... that it's recent. Whatever. I'm so tired of his lies and his blaming me, and his unwillingness to do any real work on our R. He claims he just doesn't have hope that our R will work. He fence sits because he doesn't want to hurt me or the kids.
I'm extremely hurt today and in a LOT of pain. I am determined that this is it though: he either puts the work in or he needs to go. I guess where I need some advice is this: if he is willing to put in the work (say through a FT or some sort of marriage building program) do I allow him to stay even if he doesn't want to put in the work???
I don't know. I'm so upset at this point... tired of fighting for this man who treats me with such disrespect.
