Going Dark, Gaining Strenght

[JinBK]

I talked to my Stepmom earlier today. She has some wonderful insight sometimes.

Going backward, 2 weeks ago I put a ditigal recorder in our car. I taped 5 hours of conversation between WH and OW. I was lucky I suppose because it was a day they drove way out to a big outlet mall together for the day.

When I first listened to it, I was of course devastated. It confirmed what I already knew about them. But additionally they spent a lot of time saying some pretty nasty things about me.

I sent it to Dad and Stepmom, and Stepmom spent some time listening to it. She said something interesting. She said she was listening to "two self-absorbed people talking to each other" - that they seemed to be talking and agreeing with each other but not actually *listening* to each other.

Plus, she was just amazed by how much WH was just flat out lying to OW, too. Especially how he assured her that his family was actually cool with their relationship! And he said some flat out lies about Stepmom, too, which she thought was interesting.

She also thought he was trying to change OW, too. She noticed how obsessed he seems to be with her religion - she is Jewish, he is not. In fact, he's really not a religious person at all in any way. But, he seems to become obsessed with converting to Judaism and becoming even more "Jewish" than OW and her family, making OW more religious than she is right now. He has also cited my not liking OW because she is Jewish. Um, yeah, that's it. It's not that he's screwing her, it's that she's Jewish.

It's a slow day at home, so I am finding myself thinking about WH and OW more today. I am trying to go through a pile of old papers, which is really not exciting at all.


Just IMed with SIL's BF. He is really upset. WH's family is being so overly accommodating to him and are turning on SIL since she is the only one who isn't buying his crap about OW. I feel really bad. I am not sure what to do. I don't know if I want to jump into the middle of this fight. Their denial is just so strong. They don't want to "hurt" their son, and are ignoring that he is having this A. In the meantime, they are alienating their daughter. But he is just flaunting his A in front of everyone and they are just letting it happen. To me, I am out and I know that things will fall apart on their own. But poor SIL is in the middle of it still.