I couldn't help but think if I asked this of my W every day during our M, would I be here now?
Did you cause your W MLC? Psstt....answer is NO.
Could have done thing better in your M. Ayep, everyone could have.
Crushed Her crisis is not YOUR fault.
Oh...and you could look back, it is healthy to do so, BUT only so that when YOU look FORWARD you do not make the same mistakes.
I came to this site to stand for my M.
I am here because I am standing for ME now.
Why?
Because my stand is NO longer about my W. It is about me, becoming and living the life that I want to live.
I stand because I made a commitment to her.
IF she decided to terminate the M - that will be her choice.
I my friend, will look in the mirror and KNOW that I did everything I could and then some. I will look in the mirror and...
Know, that I stood for me, for something that I BELIEVED in.
Which is....
Love
Crushed - I can tell you that I still love this woman and always will. I can also tell you that if I am divorced, that I will be okay. Matter of fact, better than okay. I will find love again, it will be different. Why?
Because I stood for ME and became what I always wanted to be...
A MAN!
Not perfect...actually flawed in many ways BUT a MAN non the less.
A Man that Loves deeply Listens Communicates Validates Accepts change Is a kick as* dad Is a kick as* friend Is a kick as* funny motherf*cker.
Just a man dude....
As the Shinedown song says....
A simple man...
That is why I stand Crushed...
Why are you going to stand?
Can you answer that?
BTW, going to church is a great idea.
Corinthians V 13:4.... "Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud."
PRIDE....as a man we need some of it...FOR anyone dealing with a MLC spouse..Pride is a killer.
Love is patient.....
Love is kind....
It does not envy...
Do you love your W crushed? If you do, give her this time...
Take this time for you...crushed....
Don't write about it...live it! Every day, day by day,
Wake up in the morning and just try to be the best man you can be.
God Bless,
Eric
Now I'm going to go GAL my butt off!
If you ever want to talk my friend, look me up on the alt.
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
