I got the ILYBINIWY speech. She said we've grown apart, and she didn't "love me the way a wife should love a husband." I was devastated.
She's not attracted to you.
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"You sounded upset on the phone, is everything ok?"
Why ask that? You already know the answer.
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And she said "No! Aren't you stressed out too?"
I just kind of shrugged.
That's weak. Stop taking her temperature.
Here's what I "see" in you. You are afraid to take action but you want to control everything by stonewalling - stop going to MC because it mads you "feel" upset. Your wife won't be attracted to a emotionally weak man. You sound very scared, unsure of yourself and angry deep down. You exhibit passive-aggressive, co-dependent and pessimistic behavior.
Stop letting your feelings control you. Make yourself responsible for your own happiness. You have a choice in how you think, feel, and act.
She's talking and acting like I never said I was leaving. Sat down with me to make up the meal plan (we plan all our meals a week in advance now) together, talked about when we should have D6's birthday party, and a whole bunch of other stuff. So she's either thinking I'm going to backtrack (especially after last night) or that or she's just ignoring the sitch. (mindreading I know)
She's talking and acting like I never said I was leaving. Sat down with me to make up the meal plan (we plan all our meals a week in advance now) together, talked about when we should have D6's birthday party, and a whole bunch of other stuff. So she's either thinking I'm going to backtrack (especially after last night) or that or she's just ignoring the sitch. (mindreading I know)
Hi Pin,
I'll hop on with a mind reading comment. Why not.
She's viewing you as an open book. Same old PH. Same old M. Same Ol Situation (SOS)
No one here knows your Wife like you do. There has got to be SOMETHING you can do to shake it up. You have to figure that out.
Oh man my psost went south. I know what you are going through as this is my second marriage. I did all the wrong things in my first. Drove her away. Hang in there brother. She is still there. She is a stranger in your W's body. One minute she will hate you and the next your best bud. Say less and do more. Do more for your kids and yourself and let her see that you will be ok. I think guilt is the biggest issue in these sichs. It mask's the real love that is inside..
My daughters wanted to watch a movie in our bedroom (while W is at work). They spot some Hershey's chocolate syrup we had left on the bedside table last night and shout "You had ice cream last night, no fair!" I blushed three shades of red and said "No, we didn't eat any ice cream last night..."
