Well I know this is somewhat of a "hot topic", as the ladies of the View would say...
However, I have given the in-law situation a lot of thought and here is my position...
I didn't do anything wrong. I loved their son with all my heart and was faithful to him, I fought for my marriage. They know that. FIL just told my mom at my uncle John's funeral that they were 'never losing me'. I don't believe I need to sever the relationship bc their son made poor choices.
His nieces, are my nieces. Niece 1 was only 6 weeks old when I started dating Dan. Now, she is a college freshman. We are facebook friends and I send her little gift cards now and then. Niece 2 is a high school freshman. I work our school's cross country and track meets in part so I can cheer her on--her school is in our athletic conference. I drive the hour to her school plays, because I love her and I want to support her.
My other 2 nieces are daughters of the SIL who was my high school locker partner. Our friendship began before I ever dated Dan. They are only 4 and 2, and they are Sydney's pals. We get together so our kids can play together when they are in town (they live 3 hrs from here).
As long as MIL invites me out, and it works with my schedule, I will go. I went in last night head held high because I had no reason not to. All I saw of ow was her back as she went running around behind the barn when I got out of my car...
Down the road if ow becomes ensconced in their lives, and is present at family functions, I will re-evaluate. I may choose not to come on those occasions but it doesn't mean I won't continue to see my nieces. I didn't get a divorce from them.
Today after church I met SIL 1 & 2, MIL/FIL, and nieces except the college one, at a local restaurant for lunch. It was a great time and I did not feel the least bit awkward. Remember I have been around these guys for 18 years.
OK off that soapbox!! Heading out to mow, it is 84* again today. Massage appointment at 5--two nights of sleeping on the floor and I need it!
