Secondly, I'm sorry to hear that. I know how tough it is and once again, conventional wisdom proves correct.
I'm not going to give you much in the way of advice as I'm still very new at this. However, DON'T expose them at work tomorrow. There is PLENTY of tme to do that if/when you decide to.
Wait for the old hands to chime in on tactics.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011