No longer holding on to what I know is gone.

[Matilda2]

Yes, you should feel elated, NNP. When you feel good on the inside it shows on the outside. I am proud of you!!!

[Matilda2]

checking in

[NNP1965]

mat are you still here?

[NNP1965]

so I filed... H was served... He always said he didn't want this to be ugly, but divorce is ugly.

I know this is the right thing for me to do and I am finally able to do it. I don;t have any idea how things are going to work out or what life will look like, but I know it will be better than this.

[BeginningAgain]

[quote=NNP1965... He always said he didn't want this to be ugly, but divorce is ugly... [/quote]

NNP - you are so right about this. We can play nice, be as pleasant as we can throughout the process, but in the end we have a piece of paper that says Plantiff versus Defendant that replaces a paper that speaks of being united. At least you are moving forward towards a happier life for yourself. Wishing you the best!

BA

[Matilda2]

Good luck with the process! My advice is listen to your lawyer!!!!! At least I think you have some things in your favor....like getting half your H's retirement is part of the military rules....not something you have to negotiate with your H. I know you will make sure the boys are taken care of, but don't forget about yourself!!!!!!!

[optimist2004]

(((NNP))) Sounds like you're feeling empowered and coming to terms with the unknown. None of it is comfortable or easy. And I for one, really, really wish it was. I have to stop wishing. You are starting a new life and that's awesome!

[BobbiJo]

Just checking in on you...hope you are doing ok.

[NNP1965]

Thanks for checking in everyone I am actually beginning to be able to see the possibility that I will get through this and be better off for it.

[NNP1965]

One step closer... tonight I went to the required 2-hour parenting class. That was sobering and a little humiliating.