trying to understand

[JinBK]

Remember that she will go through a mourning period for her OM, even if she does want the A to be over. You probably have 2-3 months of this to go.

Hm, I would take what she says her therapist says with a grain of salt. I can't imagine a therapist would say exactly that. Mine asks me questions about how things make me feel and helps navigate through those feelings.

You can also take it as a chance to answer that "emotional abuse" with a little 180.

And sexual desire for women is tricky. We're funny creatures sometimes and often we don't entirely understand ourselves. I would say, if you aren't already, start doing little things to make her feel beautiful and special. Bring her flowers or something else special that you know she will like, but expect nothing in return. Suggest doing something fun that you know she will enjoy. I know as I was losing my desire for WH it was largely connected to no longer feeling special to him. It was like sex was expected because I should just want sex. I know I closed myself off from him because of that.