Wanted: Large dose of patience

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Cas, I'm very happy for you that you were able to have that healing convo with H.

It was powerful. I cried. he would have felt it, too.

Does your H have a tendency toward rigidity in his personality?

Yes!

Is there someone in your H's life who might be pushing him toward D? All of your H's actions indicate that OW isn't a strong influence on how he spends his time, so this is confusing.

I don't think so. He's usually very decisive. There's nobody in his life except ow, our kids and his family. His family don't get involved.

What are the laws regarding D in your area? How soon might this happen? In my state, D can occur within 1 week if both parties agree. I told H/XH that I needed more time to adjust to the idea of D

Not sure but it's no fault divorce so it would be fairly quick, esp if we lodge it ourselves. There'll be no more time cos we've been apart 3 years.

Thanks GAG for your interesting insights. I will re-read your post tomorrow with a fresher head!