I went and took a quick scan of the Midlife Maze site you were referring to.
Yep, it seems to be stuff we already know for the most part. Please don't get discouraged when you read sites like that because I believe they probably go on the premise that most people whose spouses do this just give up and do not even give the thought of trying to outlast the MLC.
I do believe if you want to try and outlast it and possibly have a chance to R your M you need to understand what you're dealing with.
For me at least, understanding MLC has made detaching easier. While you're never going to know why the MLCer does most of the things they do if you realize it's all part of the crisis it's easier to not take it personally.
When you accept that you are not to blame for your H's MLC, it's easier to do this...
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the only thing you can do is let him figure it out, love him from a distance and begin your own journey towards healing and peace.
