Complicated stuff Cas at the risk of not mind reading perhaps H has felt he has done too much damage to not go ahead and divorce you?

I know my time line was much shorter than yours and I still honestly believe that H only came back after six months because I got the DB advice straight away he left and was able to put it into immediate practise, I only wish I'd had it three months before that so I could have possibly stopped him going but that is all water under the bridge.. I know I was lucky, at any time he could have found an OW and that probably would have been the end of our M as he truly believed it couldnt change for the better.

I some times think having watched them that once they have let go of OW and want to reiniate relationship with LBS they are a bit like the ostrich they do a little courtship dance and then when the LBO (Left behind ostrich) responds they promptly panic and stuff their heads in the sand.. It does seem that even when your darling Ostrich hubby sticks his head in the sand he keeps coming up and forgetting he'd planned to divorce you and again goes ahead with his little courtship dance and so on and so on.

So the question is how do you get him to dance a little longer each time?

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W 47
H 47
M 24
T 30

Once lost but now found and happily married again!