Also.....
It's H's birthday in 2 weeks. What do I do? Options;
nothing/text/card/gift but not personal

Although our conversation was strained with the whole divorce stuff rearing its head again we still finished reasonably positively. I am almost tempted to give him what he wants and take the papers up to his house tomorrow. On the other hand I don't think I should make it that easy for him. What do you think?

Sanderika, we were both posting at the same time so you have posted here without seeing what I had typed above. It may change your thoughts!!!!