LOL LH! I sure hope our WH-es aren't the same! That would create a whole different set of problems!

Originally Posted By: lovehurts
I fear that they won't wake up, but it's incumbent upon us to move forward in GAL, fix things we don't like about ourselves (or they didn't like that hold merit) and get our lives to an emotional place of stability.

The A our WH are having are unresolved issues they have. I know we both know it's not our fault. However, we can hope that while we are working on ourselves they will do the same. My biggest fear is that my H will fix himself while he's with her and she will get my happily ever after.


I, for one, am completely sure that WH and OW won't last. Especially if he does fix himself. He will look at her and wonder what he ever saw in her. With my WH, I can see how she is his escape.

Plus, their R is destined to fail because they have to lie about it. Even if it were to come out in the open, they would have to lie to everyone about how it came to be, needing at least 3 different stories for various groups. And, should her parents ever meet WH's family, well, they'd have to be careful because OW's family already know WH as her BF, while clearly WH's family knows her as "just friends". And you don't casually become part of WH's family. That is just not possible.

More likely in my case is that WH will get dumped by OW and he will stay in this pathetic state, being taken care of by his aunt and his mother for the rest of his life until he is a pathetic loser living alone and miserable.

I hope he finds a way to look into himself and not become that.

Last edited by JinBK; 10/10/10 02:27 PM.
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