Wanted: Large dose of patience

[Sanderika]

Hi Cas,

Things are going very well for you.

I had many opinions spelled out in the post I wrote and lost and since I hadn't been able to log on and with time issues all has been discussed already. I can't really add more.

The facts are obvious to me:

H is spending more time with you and is comfortable.
H is spending time working on household chores and is happy doing so.
H is initiating contact with you in person and voice and is comfortable.
H is increasingly more candid with you about his personal goings on and that is a breakdown of his wall.
H is suggesting activities for you two or three to do together and as a family because he is enjoying the reconnection.

You are experiencing so many positives right now. My advice is to maintain your patience and continue to let him lead. Do not let your anxieties get carried away. Let the OW be, IMO she doesn't have much impact right now from what you are saying. Your H will dispose of her when he is ready and that may be coming soon. He will do this when he feels it's safe and it cannot be rushed.

Continue what you're doing....it's working!!!

Get those magazines out and create one/two of the recipes for your next dinner with your family that H pointed out you both would like.....He will feel validated that you listened to his thoughts and ideas and it will be fun to try something new together!!

(((Hugs))) Cas.....I think about you and pray for your family every day.

Time will heal...

Sanderika