Now I'm Walking Away Part 2

[pinhead]

I'm sure some women here will tell you that they can't ML without attraction.

THIS!!!!!!!!!!!

Pinhead, whether you want to believe it or not, this is ABSOLUTELY true.

Not sure I think this is true in all cases.

[FindingMyVoice]

Pinhead, what specific behaviours and/or words would you need to hear/see in your wife in order to feel/believe she's attracted to you?

Seriously, can you give us a list? I know it sounds dumb but try doing it... it really helps sort your mind out.

ps - it's gotta be specific - 'show more affection' doesn't count.

[pookie69]

Pin,

Is there something missing in ML?

No eye contact? No kissing? Too mechanical? Little passion?

What's the problem?

[pinhead]

Initiate physical contact, holding hands, kissing, sex. Oh, and she doesn't like to kiss me... Says it's too intimate.

[pinhead]

Pin,

Is there something missing in ML?

No eye contact? No kissing? Too mechanical? Little passion?

What's the problem?

Bullseye...

I mean, she's enjoying it, very obviously. But without getting to xrated, it's not a lot different than if she were spending some quality alone time...

[pookie69]

So she was not always like that, I take?

[pinhead]

Not when we were first dating, and during the first year or two of marriage. At least what I remember. We've had a SSM from about 2002 on, and before that we were so involved with IVF that spontaneous ML was rare.

[pookie69]

So she has some work to do.

Lead her.

[pinhead]

I'm sleep deprived, and one of our security admins has just hosed our proxy server so I can't update my server farm, but I think I want to scream when I see "Lead."

[pinhead]

Are you on the alt, Pookie?