It's late and I'm very tired so I'll post this briefly.
After swimming, I realised I had forgotten to give H $10 I owed him and as I had said I would pay him today, just five minutes before leaving the car I wanted to tell him I would give the money to D. I sent him a message on skype and we sent a few messages. Long story short after he referred to something negative he had done in the past I said, "The past is over. Let's forget it." What followed was this amazing conversation which had us building a bonfire and throwing our past history on it and we threw the pain and hurt we had both caused on the bonfire. Then H said sorry and that blew me away. I replied, "me too" and he said that he had more to be sorry for than me and we shared how we had hurt each other, our kids and our family. We both said we had forgiven each other and the past was now in the past. We pledged to be honest and caring of each other as we tried to move forward together as friends. I thanked him and said I felt a sense of peace because of what we had done. H replied, " Thats good. Hopefully the pain of the past has gone. We still have to sort out the settlement at some point." I restated as I have several times that I have the paperwork here and he asked what he had to do to get it going. I said, "Just come here and fill it all out with me; financial and divorce" and he agreed. He told me that he loved me as a friend but it was best for everyone if he lived on his own and so therefore he wanted a divorce. I just said I did not want this but I would not stand in his way.
So as usual, as soon as we get too close H pulls out the divorce card!
