I have been following your sitch from the beginning. You've put a lot of work into saving your M.
You seem to be very upset about what your W told you about leaving if there were no kids. You keep obsessing over that statement.
While I totally understand that words like that hurt, but isn't the whole thing we've learned here about what to read into statements like that.
What is different about that versus the bomb itself.
If it was me, I would not be so focused over what she said and I would not give up the DB at this point.
You've got her attention, why not figure out how to be attractive to her.
Moving into your new apartment may hold the key to the next phase.
Don't lose your motivation now.
You can do it.
I think everyone's misunderstanding me a bit. Or I'm not being too clear. I'm not upset about what she said. It's what she felt at the time, and she was being honest and open. Which is a good thing. But to me it's a really clear wake up call that makes it hard for me to trust anything I see.
And I'm not opposed to reconciling. We're not even close to that though.
And I'll keep DBing. Mostly because I think it's helped me change and grow a lot.
The reason it's different from the Bomb itself, is, she was going to leave after dropping the bomb, because she felt that way. Now she's staying despite still feeling that way.
