You can't have everything, where would you put it?

[awest1217]

So you are willing to do anything possible and probably make STBXW mad about money, but you aren't willing to talk to her about the girls' schooling?

I know you are a great dad, but at least the way you are writing things here, it seems like you are not willing to talk to STBXW about important things with the girls and complain that she isn't more involved, but when she does take off work to go to meetings or on her lunch break stop by D11's play, you second guess her. I really think if you talk to STBXW in a civil way (even through e-mail) asking her for suggestions or asking how she is planning to handle the issue that would be good. Even asking what are suggestions for punishment and rewards so you both can be consistent to open up a line of communication is good. You don't have to talk about her and her day, and not even on the phone, but being on the same page is important because ultimately you want the girls to have the best lives they can. They won't if you don't start to communicate. They can have a great life even with the D. Don't make them suffer because you are mad.