"My only disagreement is about your "Ls are useless" comment. My L was invaluable."
Kerry I agree its important to get a good L in cases where there's no mutual agreement. But there are some pretty bad Ls out there. And often you get a so-so one pitted against a really bad one. Often the LBS is in no state of mind to make good choices. And the bottom line is the L's are limited by the "no-fault" and "community-property" laws and they cannot really bring about real justice in many of these cases but they can only posture and intimidate the other side to get an agreement instead of asking the judge to decide - the judge is also limited by the unjust laws. For example I don't see why a woman should be paid alimony when she's left her husband and is living with a millionaire only not "married" to him. Or a "cheater" or mentally ill person gets half of all assets plus full custody of the kids because the other spouse commutes 100 miles to work and needs to travel a lot on work.
