Wow, thanks NotFromThesePart. Can't believe someone would take that kind of time to read my whole sitch.
Yeah I've got nothing but time right now. But there are a crazy number of parallels. The big difference is we have no kids, so I won't be as paitient as you.
Originally Posted By: futureunknown
Not sure what you mean when you say I'm engineering my M. I am a very logical person, so that's certainly always present.
I think that maybe you've taken DBing too far. I think you have a formula that you believe is required to solve the sitch.
Just a thought, and other than reading all your thread I really don't have a lot of experience. But I think you are dwelling too much on remorse. Think about it. What if you could get past the remorse thing. Just give it up? Ignore the power struggles, the feeling of "fairness" etc. Is there a chance you two could work it out?
Or, said another way, what if she DID show you remorse? Would that be the magic bullet to lets you live happily ever after? I know you know this, but no matter what risks are still involved. Her saying "my A was a mistake", does it really change that much?
I respect the work you have put it and I think you have really helped a lot of people with your thread. I just hope that if/when it comes down to it and my wife says "I'm sorry I hurt you. I didn't know another way." I can accept it and we can move forward.
Originally Posted By: futureunknown
I'm just doing the best I can. My W and I get along very well, and we share three little kids.
That is clear, and I admire you for it.
Last edited by NotFromThesePart; 10/10/1005:56 AM.
M:37 W:34 M:4 years T:6 years No Kids A disclosed - 9/1/2010 W asks for separation - 10/19/2010 Moving on - 10/24/2010 A ends (and I believe her) - 12/2010 Content - 3/1/2011 Served - 3/18/2011 D Day - 6/20/2011
