Have you considered going to a Retrouvaille weekend? They are not specifically geared to MLC, but I think that was a lot of what was going on in my marriage, and it worked for us! The website is www.helpourmarriage.org, and dates and locations are listed, it's an international group. They have helped thousands of couples by giving you an effective way to communicate with each other, and pushing you to deal once with the past and then drop it completely before moving on to the future. Best weekend I ever spent!
