I'm advocating Knowing Yourself so that I want my wife to be attracted to me and I want someone to lust after me and what is "wrong" with wanting to be desired is not a recurring theme when you write out your thoughts. It seems unhealthy that you would leave a troubled marriage where you exhibited those behaviors so you can start up another continuing those behaviors.
out of curiosity, has your wife read divorce busting yet? The chapter on what solution-orientated therapy is and how it can help you. and chapter 5 and 6 on identifying patterns that work and interrupting destructive paterns.
