Wife is cheating, am sad but confused?

[HopelessInLove]

Thanks for the encouragement.

I have been a mental mess. I feel the need to protect myself. My parents, brother and bestfriend are the only people who have herd my side and they are trying to be helpful and supportive. They all though more recently been my biased shoulder.

I feel stronger knowing that she is having A, b/c now I do not feel the constant emotion of unilateral guilt. She is also invloved in M crumbling.

My kids are with me the entire weekend. W will have limited contact with us. I have had kids every Friday or Saturday night and then get them again Monday night. W offered for Kids to stay Sunday b/c no school Monday. I jumped at the chance and said I wanted them Friday thru to Monday morning. W about had a break down in front of me. I said that was what I wanted and asked if she wanted something different and if so we could discuss. She paused of about a minute, then I said well I suppose you are okay with my decision. She got angry and said she was not expecting it and was trying to get a grip on not having kids over the weekend.

We have always gone to church regularly as a family. In one conveersation I heard she mentioned about me now going to church and us acting like the perfect couple/Family there. Well the tide has turned this weekend and she asked when I was taking the kids to church and that she could go with.

I think I have enough info to have the law on my side, but I still want the marriage to work out. So I think I will slowly stop taping for my sanity.

How do I handle the separation part right now? I have been out of my house for nearly 2 months now. When all of you say detatch give me some examples. I think you mean just not talking, emailing, texting, trying to engage in any discussion, except about kids, what else? I want to be genuine about all this. I have been smiling more when around her, and a more pleasent mood, but W slams me and says quit all this fake sh!t.