H pushing Divorce

[beastiemanager]

BM

"unstuck"....that is a good question and one that really I do not have an answer for.

I think the key is to just move through the process. In short, just "be". Allow yourself the feeling that you have. Allow yourself time to grieve.

I think you will know if you become "stuck" and all I think (these are just my opinions) you can do is recognize it, analyze it and then try to keep moviing

Okay, I gotcha. That is where I have the most trouble, in just "being." I have this feeling like... somebody said they would pick me up and give me a ride...and I have been waiting for 2 years for them to show up! So I am sitting here with my coat and purse, waiting for them to arrive. For awhile I sat in the window,watching. Then I moved into doing something while I wait, but kept an ear and eye, always to the driveway. Now I just do things. I don't watch anymore or listen. I feel as though my ride forgot me, but I am ready if they show up. If I still want to go.

So maybe "just being," will be in this place I am in. My D25 said to think of it like I am on vacation, the kind where I can do whatever I want, it is about me and for me. So maybe I am slowly moving inch by inch forward.

Thanks- Beastie