V1olin's new life without wife

[v1olin]

Well, my x thought it was appropriate to tell our D8 that she has a new boyfriend:( She was showing some softening and also initiating some texts. Just a few days before she sent a photo of the kids and her trying on halloween masks at the store!

I am disgusted with her lack of judgement on telling our daughter about this and I let her know it. I no longer held my tounge out of fear of her thinking I am a jerk. In our marriage I was a mix of doormat and jerk but mostly doormat.

This is roughly what I told her,

"D8 told me today that you are dating someone. I can't beleive you did not have the gut to tell me yourself. Do you have ANY IDEA how hard that must have been for her to tell me that? Date anyone that you want but DAMN XW, why do you have to tell D8 about it? Can you not hear her heart breaking? I have NO respect for you."

I immediatley and without emotion rearranged our drop off, pick up of the kids so that I do not have to come into contact with her mother or brother again. She did not like it and would not agree so I told her I was done talking and hung up the phone. She called 15-20 times and I ignored every one of them. She then started texting and after 3 of them and an hour later, she caved in and gave me what I wanted. But she did it AND was still trying to guilt me about the kids. This is how,

"V1olin, we have had a really good partnership and I would really hate to lose that and have it negativly impact the kids."

So, I called her on her BS trying to guilt me about the kids. Funny how she wants a divorce and that is ok for the kids and all I want is to not communicate or see her anymore and that is going to hurt the kids! ha! yeah right. I even told my D8 what my new plans were going to be and she was fine with it.

I gave XW instructions on how it was going to work and I was very clear, "XW, I will pick the kids up from the house. When I get there, send the kids out by themselves and you stay inside." She guilted me AGAIN and I called her on it again. So a few days past and then it was friday. I had not talked,texted, or emailed her. I even ignored her fake call about our D8's homework(her homework was not with me). I texted her that I was at the house and waited a minute or two. She clearly was not sending out the kids. I went up to the door and rang the bell. She comes to the door, she says hi and say nothing. She gives me some un-needed info about the kids and hands a bag with carmel apples in it. She had bought them for the kids at the orchard that day. When I get back to my appartment with the kids D8 hands me a bag and tells me, "Mom got you this one, it has nuts on it." My face went cold and I told her I did not want it. My D8 totally gets it. I told her that we are divorced and we should not be getting gifts for each other. She said, "yeah, if she does not like you why does she get you stuff?"

So, I am really amazed and also disgusted with this reaction from XW. I am the toughest that I have ever been with her and she gets me a caramel apple with nuts on it!? Yes, I like the kind with nuts on it. After the failed pick up from the house I sent her a text that said,

"Next time, send the kids out by themselves."