Is it possible for you to believe that despite the fact that your wife said that ugly thing to you, and she doesn't retract it, that it isn't really what she feels? Instead, I believe she is talking too fast. She is talking about the surface feelings and not even exploring what is going on underneath. That's why it takes a weekend. That's why it takes the experience of really spending some time with your feelings and weighing each one, and seeing what the real gut feelings are. It doesn't happen in everyday life. It takes the retreat experience to plumb the depths of your feelings and open up to each other.
So how can I suggest to Mrs. Pinhead that she ask you to go to Retrouvaille with her, whether you move out or you don't move out?
No, I'm pretty sure that's how she feels right now. Whether that's a long term feeling that will persist, I won't know.
Getting her to ask me to Retro? No idea how that's possible.
