PEI, I too have made more personal changes in the last year than the combined years of my marriage. Stupid that it takes something like this to be a catalyst. But the complacency feeds on the familiarity and daily proximity to a partner who you assume is shoulder to shoulder battling the external challenges to a life together.
Would your W say the same thing? I know my H would. He would definitely say I was not a partner to him during the last several years. Who's right? You want to know what I've learned in the last 9 mos? We both are ...
Originally Posted By: crushednstuck
Marriage was another accomplishment like graduating from school. Graduating to adulthood. I did the work.
Did you CNS? Did you really (FWIW, I did not) ... or did you just
Originally Posted By: crushednstuck
put in the time.
I'm not trying to bust your b@lls CNS ... I'm just showing you what I've learned so far on my journey.
Originally Posted By: crushednstuck
I have the ring and license as proof. Yet no one can take your diploma away. The accomplishments are not supposed to be undone.
You want to look at this with an educational analogy ... imagine a Doctor who graduates but then doesn't put the time and energy into keeping up to speed and on top of all the lastest information/procedures/medicines ... he may still have his degree hanging on the wall but would you want to be treated by him?
Originally Posted By: crushednstuck
TG, this betrayal is unique. It is happening to me.
Sorry CNS ... it FEELS unique because it's happening to you. I've been there buddy, read my early threads ... I was sooooo different, my sitch was soooooo different thank you very much
Keep reading ... keep learning ...
Peace PEI
Holding onto anger to punish someone else, is like lighting yourself on fire to get smoke in their eyes ~ 25yearsmlc
